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Herr Lange, would you come with me?
Hello, Träger's my name.
Here's the brain.
The right hemisphere, left hemisphere.
Things are fine over here..
but that's where you see the tumour, right.
It's about four or five centimetres below the cranium.
Its contours are blurred,
and it's spread into healthy brain tissue,
bits where tissue is disintegrating.
It's like wild fire. Around the edges
you see active tumour, everywhere.
Unfortunately...
it's not a benign tumour.
It looks like a glioblastome.
Glioblastome is a malignant form of tumour.
With you it's grown at the frontal..
region of the brain, extending into the front labia.
The symptoms often appear late.
And they're unspecific. You start forgetting things,
which could be normal. As is a headache.
It's not unusual.
With the findings, do you understand
vaguely what they mean?
Right, that's the diagnosis. Sorry.
Really sorry.
Excuse me.
Träger. Hello.
No, that's another patient.
We have lots of patients. Must be...
Yes, I heard so yesterday
from the anaesthetist, and the chief consultant
we can have a longer chamber.
Yesterday, at the operations meeting.
Yes, he definitely said it could be available next week.
Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, for the long theatre.
So I put it down.
I told you we've..
Yes.
Right.
Anyway, let's leave the schedule as is, right?
Bye.
I'm sorry. Something needed attending.
Right, now..
The results indicate..
A malignant tumour.
What can...?
What can be done ? Usually, with the patient..you'd..
Operate the tumour. Cut out
as much as possible. What we try,
is to extract the entire tumour.
Then..but here,
as the edges are undefined you'd do radiotherapy,
and chemotherapy. There'd be three...
pillars of therapy.
Normally. But in your case..
The problem is: we can't operate.
The tumour is located..
In an area where..
Important brain functions are lodged.
From its positioning it's inoperable.
It is, so to speak, a matter of..
Adding insult to injury
in this case.
What's the life expectancy with such an illness?
Well, naturally...
You're never too sure.
Just a preliminary estimate..
From experience..
You'd say, if you operate,
and with supplementary chemo- and radiotherapy,
life expectancy for someone your age..
Would be one, two or three years.
On average. With an operation, and the rest.
If you can't resort to operating,
like in your case,
it usually just takes a couple of months
before..
The tumour resurges.
It's really quite..
Malignant.
Got any children?
Two kids.
How old are they? - Fourteen and eight.
Would you tell them?
Yes, you have to let them know. - Really?
And what do you tell them?
The truth?
Whatever I told you. - Right.
Their father has been diagnosed with an illness.
You tell them whatever they wish to know.
I think something you wish to know is easier to face.
Well, it means..
That for my son's tenth birthday..
I shan't be here anymore.
Some people get heart disease or something..
And with others you get this one, here.
We know nothing about the reasons for getting a tumour.
To some extent it's fate.
Stopped on Track
Stefan? After the break, you're wanted in bulk goods.
After the break, you get over to bulk goods.
Heard the one about..
Two moths in an acrylic sweater. Says one to the other:
Can't stand artificial food much more.
Hello Lilly! - Hello!
Hey, you? - Hi sister!
What a surprise.
Nice, isn't it?
Just your style. Nice!
How nice, with the bed.
Oh, how nice!
Nice, isn't it? - Yes.
Just wait for spring, and summer.
Now we'll have to find a bigger place for you.
Mum!
Mika, put away the Mickey Mouse! Do it, now!
Unbelievable. I told you yesterday.
It's been there since. - But Mickey...
No "but"! Hurry up! - Frank, stop it!
Frank, I never..
Cheers, my dear.
Hello! - Hello!
I have a brain tumour. - I have a brain tumour.
And it's no fun. - And it's no fun.
How to tell the children? - How to tell the children?
We've got a guest loo now.
No queue in the morning anymore.
In the morning.
No queue in the morning.
Once more, Mika. - Ok.
Who wants what? - Would you like a beer?
Yes, why not?
A tiny bit of broccoli.
For me a bit of ham.
Dad!
Just a bit of broccoli.
Should I scrape it off?
Alright? - Good, so far.
Well, Mika? - Well..
Thanks!
Daddy!
Has anyone in your form been to "Tropical" yet?
No not really. - No?
Lots in mine.
And? What do they say?
Cool. They especially liked the slides.
And a slide you go down in a tire, amazing!
And there's other games for kids.
Daddy?
What's the matter?
What's the matter, mum?
What's the matter?
Did you quarrel?
Dad is quite unwell.
Dad is really ill.
Cancer, or what?
You know he had these headaches? So we saw a doctor, and..
They found something.
Now he's on medication. Let's see.
We'll have to take good care of dad.
I'll go up to dad.
Have you really done your homework?
Yes, done it.
Look into my eyes. - I did do it.
You haven't done it, Mika. - Honest.
Should I check later? - Yes.
Right, I'll do so.
You're going to be irradiated for six weeks.
You might get a headache after a while,
or feel sick. Let us know and we'll call the doctor.
Yes. - And now for the masque.
Good. - Slide it up a bit further.
Right, perfect!
Alright? - Yes.
Now for the second part. - The masque is really tight.
It should be tight, without hurting.
Good. Alright?
Now we'll put this black box on top.
And off we go.
If anything's the matter, we see and hear you from outside.
We'll be back soon.
Just try and relax.
Simone has smoked again today.
She smokes occasionally.
I thought, well..
No harm if I'd start now.
It wouldn't matter.
Always been proud not to've smoked, ever.
On the other hand I found it quite cool.
Well, you know..
Saw the match yesterday?
Yes, went alright.
I'm asking you. Don't start crying as you enter.
Honestly, stop crying. It's not good for Frank.
Oh no..
Goodness! I'll pull up here.
I'll wait. You can't go with tears in your eyes.
Impossible. What would he think?
Pull yourself together.
Of course it's a shitty situation.
Right, there you are.
Regained our composure, right? - I didn't mean to..look.
Sorry.
My god, how awful. Well.
Hello. - Simone.
Here we are! - Karin.
Hello.
Hello, Simone. - Hello, Ernst.
Where's Frank ? - On the loo.
The loo, I see.
I'll be right there. - Look, the kitchen.
Do go in.
Your new... - Sorry. Wait.
Home. - How beautiful.
Frank!
Hi, mummy.
Frank!
Old chap!
Hi, dad. - Come here, my big one.
Had a safe journey? - Yes!
Just after Greifswald there were..
Roadworks. We were in a jam for ten minutes.
Right, but he's an excellent driver.
It's got nothing to do with the roadworks.
How are you? - Please tell us.
Quite well, in fact.
No really. I'm having, radiotherapy now.
Going there every day.
How's your body taking it? I mean...
Your water. - Quite alright.
Thanks, Simone. - Would you pass me the pills?
The awful ones? It's not time yet. - I know.
Must be the chemo, which..
Tell me, Frank?
What's he doing?
Isn't the rubbish being collected today?
Here at yours?
I don't know.
With us it's Wednesdays.
Frank?
Show me your house!
Quite a climb! - Yeah, it's steep.
Not built for the elderly.
I brought you two CDs.
One on self-healing, and one on hypnosis.
Don't let your dad know. We don't always agree
on alternative therapies.
Super!
They can no longer operate.
What?
What does that mean?
The doctor said he'd only live for a couple of months.
Will you play for me?
Oh, mummy. Now?
Please.
Alright. But it's not tuned.
I've got to tune it first.
No!
Tammy, stop!
Tammy, come here!
Right, simply looking at you,
I'd like to know:
Are you fine? Are you feeling bad?
How are you coping?
Well..
Of course I'm unhappy. - Really unhappy?
Are you frightened, too?
Of course.
In the sense that you're afraid of dying,
of being dead?
Indeed.
Terrible word, isn't it?
The cancer diagnosis..
Is not necessarily a death verdict.
It's advisable
to see the illness as a friend,
like something that wishes you well.
It's like an alarm going off.
Taking stock. Rest!
Look around.
Am I living the way I want to live?
Or rather..
Am I in a position..
Where I'm at one with the world?
Regain my equilibrium, some harmony.
As long as your life lasts,
it must be worth living.
No one can really tell you..
How the illness progresses.
Or if the tumour might stop.
Nor do you know if it should grow.
You have no idea.
I think..
I think at least for the moment,
you could really enjoy life.
It's not a punishment, you're not guilty of anything,
you haven't done anything wrong,
I don't have to... whatever?
No, today I'll spoil myself
and really enjoy myself.
Now we're at "Tropical island" and..
We had promised the kids.
We'll spend the night and have a fabulous day here.
We're all really pleased.
Look for yourself.
The knapsack is..
I gave them to you; you wanted to pack them yourself.
The pills can only be in the car then?
I'll go to the car. - You'll do nothing of he sort.
Give me the keys! - I'll go!
Lilly, you look after dad! - Me too!
The keys to the tent. - No need to watch over me.
What's all the fuss? - Easy, easy.
Sorry, Simone. - It's alright.
Or should I go? - Don't worry!
Can we go for a swim, dad?
Daddy, coming in? - Coming. - Please.
I'm glad we came nevertheless.
I never wanted to go to the Maldives anyway.
Me neither, really.
You know where I also never wanted to go?
To Thailand.
We couldn't have afforded it anyway.
Perhaps we'd have to sell the house again.
Don't be ridiculous.
The water slides were brilliant!
Especially the red one you go down in a tire!
It went really fast! - Mummy?
I looked everywhere, I can't find him.
I'll go. - He's grown up; he'll find his way.
No, I worry about dad, you know.
Then I'll come as well. - Mika!
Me too! - Right, then you join Lilly.
Shit, ruins our day!
Dad!
He's not there.
Frank!
Dad?
Dad!
There you are, dad! We were looking all over.
Alright, dad? - Yes, everything's fine.
I was just.. - Get up!
Fine, yes. Don't worry!
Dad!
Of course, yes. Don't worry!
Dad said so himself,
that he's better.
So we can stay!
I'd also like to stay. - I want to take the slides again.
Hold it. Sit down, over there.
Sit here. <I'll get your things.
It's open already.
No, it isn't.
Don't worry.
Now.
I managed, mum! - Lilly, could you see to dad?
It's in my cupboard. - Right.
Shit, shit, shit!
Here's your hat, put it on.
I'll shut it.
Must be the medication. - Obviously.
The doctor said it might make you sick.
Why make such face, Lilly?
I don't want to go home, either!
We're going!
There's noting I can do about it.
Fine.
Alright. Let's go, we're off home.
Home.
Could you stop, please?
Think I'm going..
Hold on, I...
At the beginning of this journey make sure,
you have at least one hour to yourself,
where you're left undisturbed,
to take in this trip, feeling calm.
Lie down.
Close your eyes.
Set yourself up comfortably,
be warm enough and feel at ease,
so you can stay put for a while.
The journey takes you to another level of consciousness,
which will take shape in a light or maybe deeper trance.
It will seek to mobilise your self-healing capacities.
Re-emerge..
between waking..
and sleeping.
Between conscious thought..
And dreaming.
And the voice could be the wind speaking,
the rain,
a close friend,
or your own inner self.
The humming of birds,
the sound of waves,
or a meaningless murmur
in the background.
Chap goes to see the doctor who says:
"I have two bits of bad news for you.
You have cancer.
That's the first bit of bad news.
The other bad news is you've got Alzheimer's."
Says the guy: "Luckily it's not cancer."
Shit!
Shit, shit, shit! - I'm off to my room.
You sort it out, I'll continue upstairs.
Alright! - Please clear up the mess?
Mika is at it already.
So Mika has room to sleep on his mattress.
I'll get it done today! - No way.
Dad. - Alright, alright.
What? - You wanted to set it up on time.
Really! Now he's starting off, too!
Bloody shit! - Look, just calm down, right'?
Mika, come here.
Go and help dad. I'll finish here.
First we have to..
Right, for starters.. - Get this out of the way, Mika!
Out of the way. That, that, and this!
Same with the cushion.
Out! We need room to manoeuvre.
While you're at it, could you repair my door?
"My door". - Not now, honestly!
Just mentioning it, as all the screws are out.
Right.
Just keep still, please, Mika!
It isn't straight.
Pay attention!
Daddy, honestly!
Do your homework, off you go!
By yourself.. you.. Mika, please, get this ready for me to assemble.
Stay where you are. It's alright. Shut the door.
This should slot in here. - No, not at all!
Yes it does. - Here, too, if we believe you!
It doesn't make sense! Read the instructions.
You can read, can't you?
They do it differently there.
Got it. - He won't be able to sleep in it tonight, will he?
Dad?
Right, let me have a closer look.
Ok. - Need a hand?
Dad, I..
Stop it, now!
I just can't manage! - Mika, go down, it'll be fine!
I just don't get anything anymore!
Frank, come on, please.
I don't get it. - Let's get out, darling.
You'll come up with me, now.
And leave the kids alone! Up you go.
Sit down. I'll get some fresh air in.
Lie down. Look, a nice wet towel. - Thanks.
Now, I'd like you to calm down. - Mummy, I'm hungry!
Just a minute!
And you come down later, ok?
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Hi, Frank, alright? - Hey, Stefan.
How are you?
So so..
Said something at work, have they? - What a mess.
Yeah, real shit.
I'm having radiotherapy.
And... - Chemo, too?
Yes. - The in-law has her second course.
Really?
She's doing fine, really. - Me too, somehow.
You'll get better, mate.
I'm looking for these..
Can't find anything here. - What do you intend to do?
Well, you know, woodwork. These..
You mean wooden dowels? - Yes
Down that alley.
Bye! Take care, right.
Thanks again. - Yes.
Thanks ever so much. - Right, it's..
Hey, Stefan? - Yes?
Where are you going? Work?
Yes.
Well..
Could you take me? - Aren't you on sick leave?
Yes, but I'd like to scruff my stuff.
What?
Just let me get ready.
The home secretary de Maizière tonight said on ZDF TV, that
group suicide attacks could take place in several places,
there were indications as to the likelihood of such attacks.
What's that?
I get these sometimes.
Cramps.
Soon wears off. it's normal.
I've got to clear out my locker. - Yes.
Oh yes?
Listen, what are you up to there?
That's Stefan's shoes.
Right, I've got to go. Take care.
You too.
Turn round.
What for? - Yeah. - Bye!
We wish you every success in conquering this illness.
For the first time on German TV, welcome to
the brain tumour of Frank Lange!
Good evening. - Good evening, welcome.
Let me say, you look really well! - You think so?
Nice and fresh. - I'm not sure.
I'm not too well. I just had a dose of irradiation.
Really? - You sound remarkably cheerful.
Isn't irradiation intended to put an end to you?
You can compare it to a sunbed,
or a frog in the microwave. - Right.
Very unpleasant.
Let's look at these pictures you brought along.
Looks like an aerial view of a kids' paddling pool.
It's from three weeks ago. When Frank got to know me.
There's a second photo where we see you from the side.
It's.. - That's me, right at the centre.
Yes. - And now roughly..
One, two centimetres bigger. - Any chance for the patient now?
None, according to the statistics.
How is Frank Lange tonight?
Surprisingly well, actually. He's sitting at home
eating a sausage
on his sofa. - And you are in charge?
Indeed. - Just for fun you can make
him miss his glass. You press a button in his brain
and make him lose control. - Indeed, my growth..
Extends in several directions,
and you imagine the next step.
Wheelchair or incontinence.
Impair mobility; or speech.
Do you ever feel bad about it, or a bit too vicious?
I can see hardly anything. - Well, I'm cutting onions.
There's dinner soon.
I'll have to shut my eyes then.
Let's see if this works.
Is it drifting over to you? - Hello.
Ah! Lilly!
Hi, dad.
Super.
Someone peed in my room.
What?
I'm not joking, it stinks. - Come off it.
See for yourself, it's disgusting!
What should we do?
Where's Lilly now?
In her room.
Oh my God.
I've got to apologise. I'm really sorry.
There's nothing for you to feel sorry for.
Couldn't find the too.
But you managed the bunk bed.
This is not the loo
Up Down
"TV Sat"
It's not a dog run!
Loo Bedroom
Exit
Don't leave by yourself
Kitchen
Hello. What a mess.
Look what I bought!
What is it? - A Christmas tree I fancied.
Where have you been so long?
You're funny.
I went shopping.
Oh, it's already delivered?
Great.
I wonder how thick or daft you are.
How are you talking to me? - Do you take any interest in me?
Maybe you're just a stupid old cow?
Pull yourself together!
Installing a wheelchair in my pad. We're not in a hospital here!
I'll unpack the groceries.
Where are you coming from?
I went shopping, to work, and dropped off the kids!
You know?
It's all intended to make life easier for you.
Out! Out with that thing.
Have you gone mad? - Get it out of here!
You're going too far now!
Throwing things at me! - Get the bloody stuff out of here!
I don't want a wheelchair! - Why shout at me?
Take it out!!
Ever noticed that I have a tumour?
And I'm really seriously ill!
Who's at the centre of attention! - Seriously ill!
You and your tumour! Of course you're going to die!
But I'll have to go on!
Continue with the whole caboodle!
The house, the kids!
Where are you going?
To the baker's. - It's that way.
The bakery is across the road. - Right.
Two glazed biscuits. - You already got two.
Did you want two more?
You've got two already.
Well..
Russia would take part in a missile defence system,
according to Nato general secretary Rasmussen
speaking during consultations with President Medvedev in Lisbon.
Medvedev insisted on equal partnership, according to sources.
It was decided at the Nato summit
to withdraw troops from Afghanistan next year.
Berlin. Little hope in the Frank Lange case.
According to a health ministry spokesman
Frank Lange's brain tumour had, in spite of radiation
and chemotherapy, grown by a further two-and-a-half centimetres.
It is thus twice as big as when..
Hey? - I've sorted everything.
For you.
I went to the baker's.
Got us some cake..
You shouldn't.
Sorry about yesterday.
You're going bald.
There's no point, radiotherapy,
and the chemo-treatment.
Just wait for it. - Wait for what?
"Funerals, cremations, burials at sea "
The cremation casket would be similar to this one.
Not identical but similar in style.
Quite sparse, without any embellishments.
Since it's going to be incinerated anyway.
Any particular requests musically?
Yes, I'd like..
"Dead Man" by Neil Young
to be played. My wife can give it to you.
Alright, no problem.
We'll provide a sound system where it can be played..
Everything.. - ...no problem.
The entire album.
Right.
You should know usually we just play three tracks.
I'd like...
the album to played in its entirety.
If it can't be arranged..
But it will be possible to arrange?
Another good record..
The Cure, "Three Imaginary Boys",
and of course "Nevermind" by Nirvana.
Great record.
Well.
It's not a dog run!
No dog run!
Next jumper, Lilly Lange, with a back summersault.
Congratulations!
Mika, stop! Dad'll be sick. - Mika!
Lilly. - Great, you too, Anna!
Hello, Anna.
Hi, Anna. - Hi, dad.
Right, let's go home. - No, I'm going to Anna's.
Oh really?
She could join us. - No dad, don't worry.
Don't be too late. - Come on, Anna!
Bye, and get well soon! - Bye!
Frank?
Oh my God!
Frank?
Calm down!
Oh my God!
Calm down, Frank!
Mika!
What? - Could you please come upstairs?
Coming!
What happened to dad'? - He fell.
Let's take him to Lilly's room.
Right, great!
Thanks darling.
And oohps!
Hold it!
Right, we'll put him down here.
On the floor, on the cushion.
Stay with dad. I'll make a phone call.
I'm the home care doctor.
My speciality is patients with serious cancer.
We try to make you as safe at home
as in hospital.
And there's someone for you to call,
and for your wife to turn to if there are problems.
Up we go, straighten your legs. Properly, now.
One more step.
Right! Keep that leg straight. Excellent.
You'd manage better without saucer.
I'll hold it. - But the saucer..
He can drink by himself. - Yes.
I just wanted to help.
Doing it all for him leaves him even more dependent.
He should try himself.
You manage well, Herr Lange. - Nice.
Will it get worse?
With a glioblastome, it varies.
He's still quite young. - Indeed.
It'll still take a while.
But he'll progressively
get worse at doing things.
His behaviour will get more unpredictable.
It's important for someone to be round at all times.
Sometimes he's really vile with me.
Such an illness changes people's character.
You must always be aware..
That it's the illness doing it, and doesn't
reflect what your husband really feels for you.
It's not always easy. - I know.
Of course you may shout back. - It's what I did.
You can also tell him that being ill isn't an excuse.
You can do all that. - Thanks.
Nothing like a thunderstorm to clear the air.
True. - You'll have to set your limits.
I'd prefer being at home under the circumstances.
Will you manage? - Yes.
I'd like to be with him. - Right.
But you've got to get out as well.
Sometimes I really look forward to work. Awful admission, ey?
No. it's important to switch off. - True.
You can't be preoccupied with the same thing all the time,
without taking a breather.
Shut the door.
Sorry.
Shut the door.
A bit further.
More.
Stop!
Back again.
Right. - No, stop.
What? - Back again.
No, the other way.
No, the other way! - Make up your mind!
That's where you're ticklish. - Ouch!
It's warm, quite warm. - It's really cold.
Not at all, come along.
Come on.
Right. Help me a bit.
Upsy-daisy. Good.
I'll just take this down. Back in a sec.
Would you keep dad company? - Yes.
Are you really going to die?
Yes.
Of course, mate.
Will I get your iPhone?
Baldness next.
Oh, right, hello.
How's it been?
Nice.
What does dad look like? - Daft.
What? Looks great.
Mum, I'll take you home now, right?
It was really nice with Frank. - Glad to hear it.
Night. - Good night.
Frank really enjoyed it. - Should I come back?
No, that's alright. - Really?
Take care. - Give us a ring? - Yes.
Mum, it's slippery. - Oh my God.
Honestly mum. Behave yourself.
Morning.
If your husband needs washing all over,
I'd select this larger module.
Could we come back to this? - Simone?
Yes! So I know what's best. Could we check, right?
Of course.
Extensive cleaning mornings and evenings.
If in the mornings...
He's off again? - Never mind.
If..
Yes!
Right, help with moving the bowels..
It's about support with incontinence.
You could also claim for putting him on the toilet seat.
Getting him there. - But it's really difficult.
You never know for sure. If the nurse happens to be in..
That's why I left a question mark.
Simone! - Right, and this..
I just live with it. - Does it happen often?
When you're not in the room?
Yes, whenever I'm outside. He wants me there all the time.
And what's your reaction? - I go in.
Well, off you go. - Yes.
Not on my account...
But I..
I always had good reports for behaviour.
Except in fourth form.
When I got a "C".
Lovely, the snow. - Yeah.
They're both not coming today?
No, they cancelled.
Honestly.
I must say, I find it odd, really.
Actually, I'm glad they're not showing up.
But he's their son after all.
Karin broke down completely. - Oh sorry, I've got to..
But they sent a huge parcel, - ..tend to the goose.
Full of presents.
Well, well, sending parcels.
They were always good at that.
Right.
It's not a dog run.
Just your mouth and we're done for today.
Yes. - Right.
Rinse with water.
What are we doing about Frank?
For dinner? - We'll eat downstairs.
He can't take part, too tiring. He won't manage.
He just sleeps all the time.
Then he won't taste my goose.
Well, you know, with all this morphine..
He wouldn't want it anyway.
He's so out of it.
Shall I tell you something mummy?
It would be nice if he just passed away.
That would be best. This ordeal.. - Poor girl.
Have a nice time with your family.
See you tomorrow. - Yes.
Merry.. - Merry Christmas. - Yes.
Mika, if you look now, it spoils the surprise.
There we are. - Watch it, hot. Down here?
Watch out mum. - I know.
Mika!
Simone?
Shall we draw lots? - Simone!
Quiet, I think dad.. - Simone!
Hello? - I'll go up.
Gran, I don't want..
...perhaps she'd take some breast..
This stupid tiny pastry fork..
Dad is up. He'd like to join in the celebration.
Oh really?
After dinner?
Alright? - Yes.
Right, gosh it's heavy. - Careful nothing falls off.
Come round here.
Oh shit!
Careful nothing falls off.
Gosh.
Should we exchange presents now? - Oh yes.
We've been waiting long enough. - At long last.
Wait, I'd like to take a picture.
Merry Christmas.
Hey daddy.
This is for you, dad.
What's it say?
It says, "for Dad".
Thanks.
Dad has a surprise for you.
Yes. - This is for Lilly.
This one's for Mika, right?
I've also got..
For Lilly.
Thanks.
And for Mika. - Thanks.
Read it..
When I
switch off.
Merry Christmas.
Thanks.
There's something I'd like to say.
When mum and I..
Life is..
I've..
learnt..
I..
life,
it's..
Frank?
What's wrong? - I don't know!
Calm down. - Take your hand off!
But what's the matter?
Stop! - Shall I...?
Ouch!
Look, you calm down, now!
Come on!
Just keep still!!
Nearly there..
Easy..
I'll call the doctor. - Yes, I'll stay here.
Daddy.
I don't want to die. - You won't die.
I'm here. - I don't want to die!
Ah, doctor. - Hello Frau Lange. - Thank God you're here.
What's the matter?
It was awful, I gave him an injection.
He's sleeping peacefully now.
You did well.
Oh, come on. - I can't go on.
Come here. - I just can't cope anymore.
You'll manage. - Nah.
Yes, you will. - I can't stand it anymore.
Let's talk it over..
So you're better prepared next time.
He's resting in bed now, peacefully.
There's no pain..
He's getting more and more tired.
Sleepier; he'll sleep ever more.
Be awake less.
Until he sleeps all day.
And at some stage he'll sleep forever.
Go to sleep? - Indeed, he'll fall asleep.
He'll somnambulate into the the afterworld.
And the children can decide..
When to be next to their dad,
or go to their rooms.
You might like to be by his bedside with the kids.
We should ensure that the kids.. - Yes.
See him die peacefully at home.
If, after a situation like today, where he screamed all night,
with Lilly being there,
we took him to a hospice,
what would linger with the kids is:
Patients who cry when they're dying
are removed from home; and next thing you know, they're dead.
Your children will always be afraid of death, of dying.
We have a responsibility towards them.
We've got to show them
that dying doesn't have to be terrifying.
Hello. - Hello.
Ina? - Yes.
Can I come in? This is Robert. - Oh, you brought your dog.
Do you mind? - No.
Not really. Do come in.
Hello. - Hello.
Frank, someone to see you.
Frank?
I'll leave you to it. Call, if anything's the matter.
Hello.
It's me, Ina.
From Greifswald, you know?
Lift yourself up.
Hello.
Nice doggy, aren't you?
Look.
I found it. Your old one. You'd been looking everywhere.
Take it in your mouth.
Listen.
You know, I had to think back to our Mexico trip, recently.
It was so nice.
It was the best trip we ever did.
For me, at least.
Throughout the holiday, I thought I was pregnant.
I had a guinea pig as a kid.
And then..
A dwarf rabbit.
We had to get rid of the guinea pig.
Because it bit the rabbit.
Well..
And we decided in favour of the guinea pig.
Of keeping the rabbit and not the guinea pig.
Which wasn't really fair to the guinea pig,
because it had been there before the rabbit.
Still, we got rid of it.
Happy new year, mum. - Happy new year.
Happy new year.
Don't want any?
I was able to come back.
The flight was cancelled.
Everything was frozen over.
The stuff you use to defrost air planes with..
They'd nearly run out.
Didn't expect it.
But I think the next one will take off.
I can't hear you.
I'm off, right?
Hello, Frank.
Grandmother.. - Gran?
Did gran see you? - Mummy..
Mum.. - Mum and gran came to see us as well.
Granddad.
Granddad.. last year, already..
Well, the kids were happy.
Everything's chic.o.. - That's the main thing..
Dzeko?
He's transferring to Manchester.
City. Not ManUtd..
He misbehaved during practise, so they..
Who? - Wanted the money.
Who? - Edin Dzeko.
Who?
Dzeko. - Germany.
GDR and... Federal Republic.
...wouldn't have..
...allowed to travel.
Right, there was no freedom to travel.
All these places we can go now! Nice.
Who would've imagined 20 or 30 years ago.
I'm going upstairs.
For mummy..
It's a bit much to take.
She couldn't make it.
Do you get me? But..
It's snowing today..
That's right, it was pretty...
slippery on the autobahn.
At least I'm here.
Stay put.
Frank, you should rest.
Please be good and..
Yes, come close.
That's it, Frank.
Alright.
Your bottom was soaking wet,
and mum was knee deep in it when she got you out.
Remember?
Well, women.. - What?
Fuck.
What are you saying?
It's snowing. - Yes, it's snowing now.
Don't worry.
Mum?
Corning.
I'm off to practise.